In my last post, How to Master Less is More Part 1, I proposed three reasons for failure to achieve more by doing less, which is the hallmark principle of those who are able to live magical lives. Essentially, most folks:
1) are perfectionists,
2) believe their value increases the more they do, and
3) fear that when some thing hits their desk, it won’t get done if not done right away.
In my last post, I proposed that you may be a disguised perfectionist so much so that you don’t even realize you are or how it’s affecting your ability to to create more success with less effort. This week, we will debunk the second reason: A common belief that your value increases as you do more and you must do more to increase your value. If you believe you must do more to increase your value, you can’t implement the “less is more” principle now can you?
2) The more you do, the more valuable you are.
Illusion: You must work yourself to the bone to be prosperous or even make ends meet. As most people know, your beliefs are formed at an early age (and unconsciously stay with you until you change them-and, yes, you can change them, and no it’s not hard with a little help). A cultural myth that has been passed down for many generations is that you must work super hard to prosper.
When you first arrive into the world, you go to school so that you can understand the world as it is and avoid reinventing the wheel. This also allows you to accelerate your ability to advance the planet earth ball. During this time, your mind is focused on learning a lot of things that are not innate to you, and so it’s a hard for most people. At least, it is harder than merely using your gifts, which come easy. As an example, for those who are great at writing, math and science often require harder work and more hours to learn. Limiting belief formed: Want a reward? Must work hard. Must do things you don’t really enjoy that much.
I learned this the hard way after receiving a stern warning from the principal’s office for getting an “F” in science in the fourth grade. For the record, it was good for me to be forced to learn things that didn’t come natural to me. The limiting belief I formed, though, held me back when I first unlocked a talent for helping people and organizations make big changes in a short period of time. I had gotten really good at grinding away for reward. So good that, sadly, when I first started working with people, it was hard for me to believe that something so fun and easy (for me) could create such value for others. I didn’t want to take pay at first (not to worry, a few months of relying on it for my living was good motivation to change that).
After working with a large number of professionals, I discovered I was not alone in this belief that one must grind away for reward. It’s a mass conscious illusion-one that I hope to obliterate. It’s a big reason why we have such a stressful way of life and scary economy.
Truth: When you do what comes naturally and joyfully to you, it creates far more value than when you are grinding away.
Illusion: “My value is based on what I do or produce for others or how much I learn.” During school, your mind is also focused on doing, producing, and helping others. The more you do these things, the more you are rewarded. Thus, you learn, the more you do, the more valuable you are. A common belief is, “My value is based on what I do or produce for others or how much I learn.” The problem with this belief is that if you’re not doing, producing, or learning, you aren’t valuable. This is why it’s hard for many folks to enjoy a vacation–when doing nothing, they feel they are not valuable. In fact, they are stressed and even sad or frustrated. In this mindset, when you’re sitting, exercising, sleeping, cooking, doing nothing, playing, etc., you are not valuable.
Truth: It’s an illusion that you are not valuable when you are not doing, producing, helping or learning. Your value is your internal compass, the part of you that stores your innate gifts, talents, and wisdom. It is separate from how you express your value and use your time. Your value is a constant while your activities are variables. If you only produce, learn or help to the exclusion of all other activities, your ability to express your value decreases. Your health and happiness suffer. When you play, exercise, cook, meditate, etc., your “a ha” moments come easily–you access your internal compass even more than when you are just constantly using your left brain to grind away at doing. Your compass knows how you are to spend your time, and it’s likely different than the schedule you have been conditioned to follow.
People who live joyful lives where they have time for it all have surrendered their old mindsets and expectations of how they “should” spend their time and replaced it with what innately feels good inside. They know their value is their compass and that it will lead them where they want to go.
Laura Palmer’s business, Bridgenosis® is a hypnotherapy program that helps you rewrite recurring thought patterns, or “limiting beliefs”, for the better. They create a bridge between the conscious and subconscious so that positive, creative suggestions can be communicated to your subconscious mind.
Before starting her own company, Laura practiced as an attorney, focusing on labor and employment litigation and counseling. She also served as a political appointee to the U.S. Department of Labor and practiced as a transactional, corporate attorney.
You can read her profile HERE.