So many external factors are bringing us down these days.
Over the last several months the combination of:
- Bad news (health news, economic news, racial injustice,) plus
- The things we have lost (jobs, access to friends & family, schools,) and,
- The remaining unknowns about the future (will schools return? will the virus get worse? will this finally be the moment when racism is tackled head on?) …
has brought us to a place where every day the burden gets heavier and heavier to shoulder.
And yet, I have noticed that the business owners who have been succeeding these last 3 months have all shared one common attribute – they all have something called an emotional regulation strategy in place.
Dr. Marc Brakett is the Founder and Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and he is also the author of a new book called ‘Permission to Feel’. The concept of an emotional regulation strategy as a way to overcome and persevere through these challenging times comes from his work.
WHILE INITIALLY DESIGNED FOR INDIVIDUALS, THE FACT IS THAT A HEALTHY EMOTION REGULATION STRATEGY CAN HELP YOU FEEL BETTER, DO BETTER, AND RUN A BETTER BUSINESS.
Dr. Brackett defines healthy emotion regulation as: “The ‘thoughts’ or ‘actions’ we use to prevent, reduce, incite, maintain, or enhance well-being, build positive relationships, make sound decisions, and attain goals.”
And he shares that there are seven ways to build an emotional self-regulation strategy:
- Physiologic regulation (think breathing exercises)
- Self Care (sleep, nutrition, exercise)
- Healthy Relationships (feeling safe, heard)
- Managing your thoughts (positive self talk)
- Managing your life smoothly (routines, daily goals,)
- Doing meaningful things that you enjoy
- Forgiveness (giving yourself and others around you permission to fail and to forgive.)
You don’t have to have all seven in place at any one time, and there is no one “right” strategy. But finding what works for you is critical – not only for you, but also for your business.
What I have noticed is that the business owners who are implementing more than half of these seven approaches are the ones who:
- Are finding more mental clarity, more energy to push forward,
- Are able to see opportunities rather than challenges,
- Have found that they’re able to motivate their teams and to keep virtual employees engaged and happy.
As we all know, our brains like to tell ourselves stories, and so often those stories tend to be negative self-talk. So why not make the most of what our brains do naturally and change the conversation?
In fact, right now, positive self-talk + a few of the other ways to have a regulation strategy may be the difference we need to get through these difficult and emotional times.