The other day we were in a restaurant and our server greeted us with a question to discuss. He asked us “what grounds you?” Well, it was an awkward question to open with since we were a table of 5 and we barely knew one another, and we were there to talk about business. Immediately I felt I needed to be witty and funny, but these days, honesty is my go to response.
I assumed someone would say children, but even though four out of five of us had children not a one of us said that’s what grounds us. I’m not sure what that means, but I did find it interesting. Perhaps simply that those children, as wonderful as they are, probably are a big reason we need grounding in the first place!
Once I stopped trying to come up with a witty response, I realized that I knew the answer–in fact, it was crystal clear to me. Any guesses? Here’s what I didn’t answer:
- My kids (although they can be a part of it)
- My husband (although he’s quite helpful when I’m coming unglued)
- My work out (but it does release stress)
- My connection to nature (although it is inspiring.)
Curious? But then you have to promise to tell me what grounds you.
Moments of grace. That’s what grounds me. It’s one thing to feel gratitude for the people and the moments in my life. And yes that’s a big part of it. But what truly grounds me are the moments that stop me in my tracks, when I see grace in my quotidian.
Have you ever seen a child gently kissing a baby, picking up a pacifier or helping her sip some juice? Or what about the kindness of a stranger helping an older person on a subway? Have you ever done something nice for someone just because, and watched their eyes fill with tears because you had no idea how much they needed it? Or stopped on the street to really watch someone perform music and heard them play something beautiful? These are moments of grace for me, ones that touch my soul. And in those moments, I come crashing down to my reality. To being who I am and remembering what matters to me. And all the other frustrations and challenges seem to matter much less.
It’s a good question we were asked. And think about it for you, too. And then tell me what it is. Whatever grounds you might be part of the grace that grounds me right back.
Frederique is passionate about helping women take their businesses to the next level of growth and success. As founder and CEO of Her Corner, she applies her entrepreneurial spirit, management consulting background and business operations expertise to give women the springboard they need to move forward.